tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post1623140598839212080..comments2024-03-13T06:39:33.807+01:00Comments on LOVEanon: Calling all singles!Michael J. Oghiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07115199986068295818noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-91352682442621731002012-10-26T13:22:31.409+02:002012-10-26T13:22:31.409+02:00I have to completely agree with that. I’ve had som...I have to completely agree with that. I’ve had some friends that have used matchmaking services .. <br />Vip escorts in gurgaonhttp://www.gurgaonescortsbabes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-10439023146190550472011-09-02T15:08:23.939+02:002011-09-02T15:08:23.939+02:00Anonymous:
First of all, thank you for reading t...Anonymous: <br /><br />First of all, thank you for reading the blog. I really appreciate it! And thank you for taking the time to comment! :)<br /><br />Now, on to your comment. I agree with you that good friends are as compatible as lovers. But your lover should also be a good friend, no? That's one of my points: that two people should enjoy being together, just like two friends do, but just in a more than platonic way.<br /><br />Just to comment on your mention of group society, Lebanon would be considered what's called a collectivist society, as would much of the world (as opposed to the US, Canada, Western/Northern Europe, and Australia and New Zealand for the most part which are more individualistic). And so people do tend to stick to their family, kinship, and communal networks in collectivist cultures.<br /><br />I happen to neither agree nor disagree with your point-of-view. I think that the physical/sexual attraction plus falling in love you are discussing is a very important part of a relationship! I just also happen to think that it's merely one component of a successful relationship, with compatibility in this case being another component (and things like trust and communication being other components).<br /><br />This is something that bothers me about most dating guides, is that they try to put forth some kind of magic formula to which you can apply and get the person you like. But attraction and relationships are not that simplistic and formulaic. There are a host of factors that influence whether or not two people will be attracted to each other and want to be together. <br /><br />Also, about the partner's faults comment. Being compatible is a very good way to deal with faults because if you're compatible with your communication styles, conflict resolution, etc., then you can more effectively and easily tackle any issues that arise.<br /><br />I completely understand your point, and I'm not trying to say that if two people are compatible, that should be the end of it: get together, get married, have kids, and not worry about your happiness. Quite on the contrary though, love is a very important part of being together as well!<br /><br />But at the same time, I'm arguing that people should be more mindful and conscious of the people they get into a relationship with, regardless of their feelings. What's better than two people being absolutely, madly in love with each other? Being absolutely, madly in love with each other AND being compatible: enjoying each other's friendship, company, conversation, and ability to help each other become a better person (etc...).<br /><br />And I definitely don't mean to imply that in a place like Lebanon, the only way for two people to be compatible is to stay within the religious/sectarian communities. I think that's just imprudent in general (for a lack of better terms (e.g., stupid)), and in my opinion will ultimately continue to threaten the future of this country (but that's a discussion for another time).<br /><br />Thank you for sharing! I understand that in your experience, "that's not how humans fall in love and fight and work and communicate and sometimes tear their hair off in/on keeping their relationship lasting," but I think if two people are really compatible, than this won't be nearly as big of a problem (especially if they can communicate openly and honestly)! SO perhaps you should share this with your ex??<br /><br />Please continue to discuss, debate, and talk about this! I want this to become a resource as well as a community!Michael J. Oghiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07115199986068295818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-57746834742384294522011-09-01T23:39:29.225+02:002011-09-01T23:39:29.225+02:00I agree with you, compatibility is important, but ...I agree with you, compatibility is important, but if you look around you'll see that good friends are as compatible as lovers, and I personally think this manifests itself in Lebanon more than other countries because it's a "group" society (for lack of a better word) and I have not seen that many people who are confortable befriending different or incompatible others. What I am trying to say is that although compatibility is important in starting a relationship, it's not what keeps it together, from personal experience, it takes being enchanted/disillusioned and falling in love/lust to be able to stand a long term partner's fault. There's something more that I have not yet been able to decipher, and that little something is not always logical or in our control and so we fall... If that 'thing' does not exist I'm sure I would not have read some of the greatest novels ever written. It's fickle and contradictory I know, and perhaps what you wrote is the right way to prevent a disatrous heart break but that's not how humans fall in love and fight and work and communicate and sometimes tear their hair off in/on keeping their relationship lasting, at least not I.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com