tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post4779913645032321231..comments2024-03-13T06:39:33.807+01:00Comments on LOVEanon: "No Man is an Island"Michael J. Oghiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07115199986068295818noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-30251695489236462652013-04-01T14:27:37.088+02:002013-04-01T14:27:37.088+02:00Phantom: Thank you so much amigo! I really loved y...Phantom: Thank you so much amigo! I really loved your addition. I think it's a concise and accurate summery :)<br /><br />Absolutely though, and that's exactly the point. While it may go against convention, the fact is, most people aren't taught to be reliant on themselves for emotional fulfillment. Of course, that's not to say that we don't need anyone else. We do! But I would question why are you really with that person. I think all too often it's a selfish reason, even if it's guised in the trappings of "love," "comfort," happiness," or "security."<br /><br />You are right too. What exactly is self-love? It's more than just merely confidence. It's really having the security to say that you like who you are, you aren't ashamed of your past, you have the strength to deal with what the world throws at you, and you are happy being yourself. As you said, you accept yourself for all of your strengths, mistakes, flaws, faults, and unique aspects. It's also being honest with yourself--you can't lie or run away from the things that haunt you. Then again, in today's world, it's so hard to really feel that way about yourself. In many ways, consumerism thrives off of insecurity. So, why would mainstream society want people to be happy with who they are? Loving yourself, in itself, becomes an act of resistance.<br /><br />Miss them? As in physically?? I definitely think so. Do you not? I miss people I love haha. I don't quite understand your question.<br /><br />Thank you so much again for reading! Looking forward to your follow-up comments :)Michael J. Oghiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07115199986068295818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-66113448078379055732013-04-01T07:25:15.677+02:002013-04-01T07:25:15.677+02:00Awesome post man! Exactly what we talked yesterday...Awesome post man! Exactly what we talked yesterday! I wanna add a sentence to the post that makes it easier and more natural to understand: only if u have u can give, if you dont have you can't give. It is obvious! But when it comes to love we dont see it that clearly! <br /><br />I loved the contraposition of the social exchange theory, and it is quite common in society nowadays, ppl expects the others to whatever, because you are frends, couple, family or anything.... This path leads nowhere... It wont make u or the others happy, it will falsely fill ur emptiness now and then but after a while u will be empty again. The only one that can trully fulfill your need for love is yourself, and puting this burden in someone elses shoulders is utterly selfish :)<br /><br />On the other hand, dunno if you posted about it, but i think that this idea of self love has to be thought in deeper ways, what is love for oneself? What does it mean exactly? As a start, as for the love to others, you have to accept yourself completely, all your aspects, all your 4 selfs (body, mind, emotions and soul), and when you do you will start loving you, but still more needs to be done, specially in your perception of yourself, as u know yourself for quite some time now, so its not so easy to change many misconceptions you have of yourself!<br /><br />Oh, one question... And its because i saw it in the comments, you think that if you truly love someone, you can miss that person? ;)<br /><br />Great post man! Thank you! Love Phantomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14778746853329111103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-4270150821058593642011-12-03T19:53:27.405+01:002011-12-03T19:53:27.405+01:00Thanks Lama :) I really appreciate it. I'm not...Thanks Lama :) I really appreciate it. I'm not surprised you like this, it's right up your alley!Michael J. Oghiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07115199986068295818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-85626024130909955272011-12-03T19:40:04.180+01:002011-12-03T19:40:04.180+01:00Great post :) I absolutely loved it. Keep up the ...Great post :) I absolutely loved it. Keep up the good work!! :)Lama Knoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-73412397155585423992011-10-16T21:56:10.083+02:002011-10-16T21:56:10.083+02:00P. Thank you so much! I'm so happy that Thomas...P. Thank you so much! I'm so happy that Thomas Merton's words reverberated with you so much. I really appreciate your support and kind words :)<br /><br />Anon: I'm glad I could give you a bit more argumentative ammunition of sorts! I think it makes people defensive for two reasons: 1. you're implying they don't love them-self, and that could mean that you think they have issues or something, and 2. they might just disagree.Michael J. Oghiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07115199986068295818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-60322046806398057482011-10-16T21:17:08.520+02:002011-10-16T21:17:08.520+02:00Definitely gonna share this. So many people get de...Definitely gonna share this. So many people get defensive when I tell them that before they can love another, they must love themselves first. Altho, I'm not quite sure as to why that statement makes people get defense in the first place?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-827192023944829664.post-8979386739164101722011-10-16T16:13:01.145+02:002011-10-16T16:13:01.145+02:00Ogie,
This is by far, one of the best blog posts...Ogie,<br /><br /><br />This is by far, one of the best blog posts that you have written! I love all of them and it keeps getting better :) This is definitely the best blog post about love that I have read... I am glad to have met you and conversed with you. Inspiration comes in so many forms...Thank you for the ongoing ongoing positive energy...<br /><br />...It's funky and beats in orange and green!<br /><br /><br />Hugs :)<br /><br />P<br />.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com